Carmen Monica Oprea

It is said that being pretty doesn’t keep a man nor being honest or loyal. Treating a man good worrying for him or being there for the man doesn’t keep him. Making an effort and paying attention or just spending time with him doesn’t keep a man. You can have the best intentions and the most sincere feelings, you can be a good woman and still not be able to keep a man unless that man wants to be kept by you. A woman can’t force a man to be with her or stay with her. You can tell if a man wants to stay when the relationship goes through hard times and he fights for you because a man only fights for the girl he wants to belong to. So if he doesn’t fight for you when times get hard, then that means he doesn’t want to be kept by you. So, love yourself enough and let go of him. It doesn’t mean that you give up on him. It means that he gave up on you and you shouldn’t waste any more time than you already have. Know when it’s time to let go. Know when it’s time to walk away. Know when the man doesn’t want to be kept by you.

It takes only one word to hurt a woman, a matter of seconds, one stupid, impatient blow of the crop. But winning her trust back takes years. And sometimes there isn’t time. It is so amazing how unimpressed men are by being loved when it doesn’t fit their plans. Love irks them so much that they push the women away or they leave without warning. But when women stop loving them, men fall into a void of their own making. They don’t know how to cope with the loss. They start searching for the woman they once loved trying to find her into the next woman they date only to realize how foolish it had been to push away the only woman they had ever loved.

Some folks cannot love you the way you want to be loved because they are emotionally and spiritually frozen. They withdraw and evade affection. You must understand that you will never meet a deep penetrating gaze from their shallow eyes; only a surface glance. They will touch your hand, but they will never invest their hearts. They will serve your body but never your soul. They can only connect with you through how useful you can be to them but never through passion.

If you need chocolate or a jar opened, they are perfect; if you need compassion or wisdom, you are all alone. Some will cry when you leave, and some will disappear you when you cry. They are the results of what society has made them, not as nature intended them to be. They pretend to live life impeccably, but they don’t know a thing about life. They are nothing else but empty shells. They are dead inside. And they will break your heart if you let them. They see themselves as friendly, but more often than not they are mean and cold. They feel superior but lack originality. When you challenge their sweet daydreaming with anything that stimulates their thoughts, they will panic and flee. And they will make you feel crazy for being different.

You cannot change these people. They become entombed inside themselves. You will waste your whole life waiting for them to wake up to the treasure of what you have to offer. You can’t snap them out of their sleep. Often, only a tragic event will possibly awaken them. Sometimes they wake up during a painful life transition. Some wake up on their deathbeds. Some sadly never realize their potential for self-knowledge, intimacy, expression of love and feelings, and knowing love.

Maybe you know someone like this. Or, maybe it is you. Perhaps you are the one who is dead inside, and this will prompt you to take action before it becomes too late.

Love,

Carmen-Monica

The motto that marked and changed my life is that if you cannot say anything good, say nothing at all. We are not created the same way. We have a different design, although our creation follows the same principles. Some of us are genetically more sensitive than others. The outside factors don’t act upon us in the same ways. Whatever some might view as normal, others might view as unusual. The first rule of common sense says not to judge whatever you can’t understand or doesn’t fall in the category of things you view or consider normal. Don’t be in a hurry to express your opinions. Stop in place, think, put yourself in the other’s place and give it a chance. We might do the same things during the day, but our unique design allows the outside factors to influence us in ways that make us unique. It is the reason why we act differently to the influences acting upon us.

Optimism is a habit that can be learned. As an exercise, start by smiling at everyone you meet. Expect something good to happen to you regardless of what occurred yesterday. Start by accepting that the past no longer holds you captive. It will continue to hurt you if you hold on to it. How liberating is to let the past go when you realize that an abundant world awaits you!

You can learn to be optimistic, to believe that tomorrow will be a better day than today. Because of your past, you are capable to discover that by making changes you allow your spirit to soar. These changes don’t happen overnight. It takes courage to let go of the familiar and throw yourself into the unknown. It takes courage to start all over, to meet new people and to find yourself in new circumstances.

If you trust yourself, then any obstacle is pushed away.

There will always be doubters when it comes to love. Falling in love is the easy part. Making that love last amid life’s challenges is an elusive dream for many. Some love stories have the power to change someone’s life in ways one cannot imagine. There are stories that rise from mysterious places and others that are discovered because they are a gift from someone else. The destiny that matters most in anyone’s life is the one concerning love because a life without love is not worth living.