Carmen Monica Oprea

One day we’ll forget the reason we cried, and the ones who brought the pain. We will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but allowing the things to unfold in their own ways and time. After all, not the first chapter in our lives matters the most but our last. It is the last chapter that will show how well we ran the race. So smile, laugh, forgive and love over and over again. You show maturity when someone has hurt you so badly, and instead of lowering yourself to their level you let Karma clean up the mess.

Tell yourself that you are strong and brave enough and go out there and live without restrictions. Let go of everything that no longer serves you or brings you joy. Your moment has finally come, so go out there and live above the mediocrity, step out of the box that held you down. Regardless of your age, the circumstances, the scars, make a decision to live the rest of your life worthy, filled with joy and peace. There will be days when troubles will come and they will be rough, but you have the power to fight them and stop them. You’ve done it before and you survived and came out even stronger than before. This is your legacy, your story of bravery.

Sometimes all we miss is patience. We need patience to understand that we need to make the decisions together. We need to understand that we can heal together. We can change together. All we need is to know that nothing happens overnight nor it will be easy. People are usually more successful in making changes when they have the support of a loving partner.

🌸Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there. 🌸How blessed we are to have brought children into this world, a reflection of us, a glimpse into a future we try to create. It is hard work to be a mother, to care for another, to put one’s needs above your own, to offer one’s the best you can offer. There will be sleepless nights, and days filled with worries, and times when you doubt yourself and wonder if you’re doing it all right. But then you tell yourself that nobody is perfect and that you’re doing the best you can possibly do, and that it is okay to break down so that you can rise up again. I went to a christening party for a baby girl last evening. My family and my friends were there to celebrate a new soul who came into this world. It made me remember that although my son is 18 now and on his way to build the life he wants, he will always be my baby just as I will always be my parents’s baby. The passage of time shouldn’t alter the bond between parents and their children and regardless how far they might wander they know that they could always come back home. And even if the relationship with one’s mother hadn’t been a very close one, just look at your circle and see that God had sent a mother figure in your life to guide you in your moments of hardships. And if your mother is long gone from this world like my mother you still have other moms around and you can cherish their work of raising daughters and sons and being their guiding light into darkness. 🌸🌸Happy Mother’s Day!🌸🌸 Love, Carmen Monica

Some days we dream a little wilder,some days we cry a little harder, but most days we laugh a little louder and we smile to the world just when the world thought that we had given up.

I have slowly learned that even if I reacted, it wouldn’t change a thing, it wouldn’t make people suddenly love me and respect me, it wouldn’t magically change their mind. Sometimes it was best to let things be and let people go. It was okay not to fight for closure, not to ask for explanations or chase answers. It was okay if people didn’t understand where I was coming from. I have learned that life was better lived if I didn’t center on what happened around me and instead I centered it on what was happening inside me. So, I started working on myself and my inner peace.

It is said that being pretty doesn’t keep a man nor being honest or loyal. Treating a man good worrying for him or being there for the man doesn’t keep him. Making an effort and paying attention or just spending time with him doesn’t keep a man. You can have the best intentions and the most sincere feelings, you can be a good woman and still not be able to keep a man unless that man wants to be kept by you. A woman can’t force a man to be with her or stay with her. You can tell if a man wants to stay when the relationship goes through hard times and he fights for you because a man only fights for the girl he wants to belong to. So if he doesn’t fight for you when times get hard, then that means he doesn’t want to be kept by you. So, love yourself enough and let go of him. It doesn’t mean that you give up on him. It means that he gave up on you and you shouldn’t waste any more time than you already have. Know when it’s time to let go. Know when it’s time to walk away. Know when the man doesn’t want to be kept by you.

It takes only one word to hurt a woman, a matter of seconds, one stupid, impatient blow of the crop. But winning her trust back takes years. And sometimes there isn’t time. It is so amazing how unimpressed men are by being loved when it doesn’t fit their plans. Love irks them so much that they push the women away or they leave without warning. But when women stop loving them, men fall into a void of their own making. They don’t know how to cope with the loss. They start searching for the woman they once loved trying to find her into the next woman they date only to realize how foolish it had been to push away the only woman they had ever loved.