How to let go of naivete

I learned that we can be loving, trusting people and still not allow ourselves to be used or abused. We don’t have to let people do to us whatever they want. Not all their requests are legitimate because not all requests require a yes.

Life tests us. People seek out our weak spots. If we have a soft spot in one area, we find ourselves repeatedly tested in that particular area by our family, friends, or co-workers. All these tests are trying to teach us something. When we learn that lesson, we’ll find that we can set boundaries because we own the power to say yes or no. There are moments when we may be angry with those people who pushed our tolerance over the edge. And that is perfectly fine because soon enough, we can let go of the anger and exchange it for gratitude.

Those people were set our way to help us learn about what we don’t want, what we won’t tolerate, and how to own the power of self-control. We should thank them for what we have learned.

You should ask yourself how much you are willing to tolerate, how far you should let others go, and how much anger and intuition you discount. Where are your limits? Do you even have any? Because if you don’t have boundaries, you’re in big trouble.

There are times when you shouldn’t trust others, but instead, trust yourselves and set boundaries with those around you. It will help if you forego your naïve assumption that the other person is right.

Love,

Carmen