Carmen Monica Oprea

I often wonder what does it mean to be independent? Is it making your own decision, standing on your two feet or pulling yourself together after you fall? But have you not always been this way? You have never been afraid to trust yourself, and you consistently find ways to carve your own path in life. It is okay not to follow the crowds; it is okay to decide what it’s good and what is toxic for you.

Being independent also means to love fully and beautifully. It is okay to live a twisted love story that shakes your faith because you trust someone else with your feelings, you put your happiness into some else’s hands. And, by doing this, you thrust yourself into a state of tension that will make you or break you as an individual. When you love, you blend your life with another person’s. It is both thrilling and terrifying, and your world becomes an inner battle.

In love, you are willing to become someone who confides into someone else, who craves the attention, the touch, the kiss. You lean on the other person when you feel lost. This will make you breakable. You are willing to become a person who let someone in, who trusts another person, who can be crushed by the same hands that held you.

As an independent person with a strong heart and a passionate soul, you can’t let go of the part that is used to decide for herself and finds strength in the ability to stand alone. Don’t be afraid to embrace the ridiculously emotional part of you that feels love. You are never complete without the strength to carry the tears, the words and the kisses you freely give. In the end, you are a strong person, an emotional person, a perfect mix of both.

Love,

Carmen Monica

Behind those walls, behind those barriers that keep the world far away from your heart, lives someone worth fighting for. Behind tall walls that strongly separates you from the world, lives a love worth wishing for. You are greater than what has happened. You are far greater than what has occurred in your past. Behind all those walls that keep others from hurting you, like the ones from before, lives a love that only you can provide. A love like yours is worth climbing the wall that stands in front of your heart.

Love,

Carmen Monica

If nobody texted you today, then: “Hello.”

It is never too late to say that. You have probably been working for hours, but you might have gone through your day without a single text message. It is true that something as mundane as a “Hello” text may have made all the difference in the world. It is okay to ache for simple and kind-hearted gestures because they are signs that we are cared for by someone who may not be immediately present. They are reminders that we are appreciated.

We all deserve to be appreciated and thought of because there is a certain way you laugh that can light up an entire room, if only for a moment in time. There is a way you tilt your head when you’re concentrating on something, which makes you kissable. There are hundreds of details that make up the tapestry of who you are.

How quickly we forget how lovable we are. We forget we’re desired and that we are more than hard-shelled workaholics trained to behave like us. We forget that we merit adoration.

The truth is that who you are doesn’t cease to exist because there is nobody to admire you. The way you hold yourself exudes confidence, even when there’s nobody to assert it. The way your eyes light up when you’re talking about what you love is attractive, regardless of who is there to listen to you speak. All the little quirks that make you up are not extinguished because somebody once chose against them.

You still deserve to have a good day, even when there’s no one there to wish it to you. Someday, someone is going to love all these tiny details about you. Someone is going to stare at you from across a crowded room and know exactly how you’re feeling based on the way you tilt your head or by the type of wine you fill your glass. One day, someone will appreciate all your uncertainties, but right now they only belong to you, and that’s okay. Because you will always belong to yourself.

If nobody texted you today, remember what makes you incredible. You are so much more than the person who didn’t receive a message today. You are a roaring fire in a world full of people who’ve been burnt. Please, refuse to let wounded people extinguish you. Refuse to be controlled because we are all in charge of what we bring to our lives.

Be the person who brings light, be the person who has a good day, even when nobody wishes it to them. You should find a way to fuel your fire because the world needs the light you give off.

You, my dear, are such an intense power that you will never be reduced by something as insignificant as the lack of a text.

Love,

Carmen Monica

A powerful woman is a woman who can’t be described in just a few sentences. A powerful woman is feminine, and she is not afraid to show this attribute. She knows how to handle her power without abusing it. She doesn’t beg for a man’s love and attention.

A powerful woman is independent and knows how to master her emotional storms. She doesn’t run away from being alone because she knows those moments bring a contribution to her development.

A powerful woman knows how to make a difference between love and attachment. She has the power to start over as many times as she has too. When a powerful woman is hurt, she becomes more powerful. She knows what she wants and makes plans to obtain what she wants.

A powerful woman doesn’t build her happiness on someone else’s unhappiness. She has faith in herself, and she can’t be manipulated.

A powerful woman knows how to be a wife, a mother, a lover, a friend, a caregiver, and she handles her career without neglecting her other roles. She had such a powerful relationship with her mother that she learned from her mother’s mistakes. She is a role model to her children because she knows she doesn’t raise them for herself.

If you hurt a powerful woman, you help her become even more powerful than before.

Love,

Carmen Monica

Mirrors. They are part of our lives. We see our reflections in the mirrors every day. But when did we nod our heads in approval at what we saw? Sometimes we are quick to criticize ourselves, to find out what we don’t like about the way we look. What if we try to find the things we love about ourselves and give thanks for them? What if we look at ourselves lovingly and begin to appreciate what we see?

Look in the mirror and, instead of criticizing yourself and finding things you don’t like, try to discover things you love about your body: your perfect nose, beautiful hands, the color of your hair. Why don’t you start at the top and work your way down as you look at yourself in the mirror?

Then think about aspects of your personality. You may be an inspired cook, an empathic listener, a patient parent, a good gardener. Write it all down in a journal. Find those things about you that make you feel grateful you exist, that help you make a difference in the lives of others.

Loving yourself enough every day will give you the courage to go on in life. Sometimes, all you have left in this world is yourself. Be happy with what you see in the mirror. You are your best friend and your confidant.

Love,

Carmen Monica

You must stop. You are so worthy of love because you have a big heart. So, quit letting your brain override it. Allow yourself to be loved.

You must stop. Quit telling yourself you are broken. You are a strong woman, and, even if you don’t realize it, everything that had happened to you has made you into the woman you are today. TOUGH!

You must stop. It’s time to let those walls down. Let them fall. What you’re feeling is, in fact, fear, because when you let the walls down, you become vulnerable. But, do you know something? That’s a good thing. It proves you are human that you deserve to be loved. So, please, stop with the insecurities. Stop hating yourself.

You must stop. Stop pushing people away because you know in your heart that it’s not what you really want. Don’t allow your past experiences bring you down. Keep reminding yourself that you are a beautiful woman: inside and out. You are a woman who is not broken and deserves to be loved.

So, pull those shoulders back, raise your chin up, adjust your crown and keep being the beautiful woman that you are.

Love,

Carmen Monica

Don’t settle for less than what you deserve. Jokers will use magic to transform your reality into a pointless dream. Real people will transform your reality into magic. Carmen Monica

A poem

 

I was the man, who was always looking for a new décor.

I was the man telling every girl: I love you.

But only after she had left, broken and crying,

I had realized that I only love her.

I was the man, who always showed up with a formal smile on my lips,

Telling her the same old, banal, empty words.

“She’s finally gone. I am free,” I told myself when she left.

But it was far from the truth.

Today, I feel I can’t breathe without her. Everything’s empty.

In what can I believe, God? In what?

Today, I’ll give anything to turn her away from her path.

And one day, I saw her again on the street.

But to speak to her or to come near her was impossible.

She, who always waited for me when I forgot to arrive,

Watched me as you watch a stranger, with empty eyes.

So much time had passed since she left. But is it now when I realize that I love her.

Now, when she only lives in my thoughts, I know that I love her more than anything else in this world.

Unknown author

 

 

Just because people are going to treat us differently, some with respect, others with envy, we shouldn’t allow ourselves to go into the freezing mode, hoping to keep everyone away, hoping to protect ourselves from being hurt again. Some of us can go as far as terminating relationships as soon as we feel hurt.

But isn’t hurting a part of life?

No one wants to feel pain. At one point in our lives, we may have been so overwhelmed by the emotional distress our relationships or our decisions had induced inside our minds and our hearts that we felt crushed by the amount of pain we felt.

We should take a deep breath and think that today we are stronger than the day before because we deal with these hurting feelings. No one suggests that we should become martyrs, assuming that suffering is all there is to life. We have to allow ourselves to become vulnerable enough to feel hurt and take a stand in dealing with our behaviors. But we shouldn’t let our feelings control our reactions.

Pain teaches us to set boundaries. Pain wants to stop us from going in the wrong direction. Pain starts the processes of healing.

It’s okay to feel hurt, to cry, to heal and to move on to the next feeling when we’re ready. No one has the right to tell us to move on and let go if we’re not mentally prepared for doing it just yet. We would do it when our hearts healed.

My encouragement is: think that tomorrow is always a new opportunity to try again and find joy.

Love,

Carmen Monica

Spring is definitely here. I feel it in the warmth of the day, I see it in the flowers, I hear it in the bird songs. Sometimes, you have to take the day off and spend it in the nature, hearing nothing but the drumming of your own heart. It is the silence of your mind that brings you joy. I decided to try my cycling skills today and everything went well until I tried avoiding a lady and ended up in the bushes, mud on my shoes and my hands. I laughed and she laughed too as she helped me back to my feet. “I did that a lot,” she said. “Falling is the best way of learning to get back on your feet,” I answered. “At least, you have a bike and you are outside enjoying this beautiful weather,” she added before leaving. I looked after her, whispering to myself ” you are right.” It was then when I realized that whatever seems such a small thing to some people, might be a real treasure to others. So, here I am sitting by the lake and counting my blessings. Love, Carmen Monica