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Not too long ago someone had asked me if I ever had my heart broken. Of course, I had. Who didn’t? My heart had been broken for different reasons, some were under my control and I could have stopped them, others weren’t. And those who weren’t had been the hardest to deal with.
I am going to explore just a few broken heart situations and how I had coped with them. I’m not giving advice; I am merely sharing my experience. There is no science behind it, just goodwill to come victorious at the end of the road.
A long time ago, back in high school, I discovered I was in love with a boy. Deeply, madly, crazily in love with his eyes: they were hazel, and his hair was brown. We were in different classes, weeks before our summer break. We walked together, danced together, did our chores around the school and we shared our first kiss. I am trying to recall his name, and to my shame, I can’t. It slipped among other names and faces somewhere in my memory. And he had been the first one to break my heart. We decided to go to a friend’s birthday party. He had to travel by train to my town, a short trip, about two hours at the most. By the time he had reached the railway station, he felt in love with one of my colleagues. All I got from him was an awful “I’m sorry” before he grabbed her hand and left me. Tears were running down my face, but I did my best to wipe them off.
My heart was broken since he had been my first love, but I sucked it up, dressed up and went to the party alone. Amazingly, I had a good time but every time I looked at him I saw betrayal. That’s it: I associated his name with betrayal and pushed it in the back of my mind. It wasn’t meant to be, I told myself, and I was right because days later I met my life partner, my best friend and my husband.
This was an example of a broken heart when the reason wasn’t under my control. It just happened to be me the one left behind. When it happens to you, the easiest thing to do is to shake your feathers, breathe in and let everything go out. You never know when the next best thing will walk into your life. It is not the end of the road, but the beginning of another stage in your growth.
A second time when my heart had been broken it happened when I applied for the Law School. I joined a study group, and we hired a tutor. I should have studied harder, but history wasn’t my strong point. So many dates, and wars, and kings. I couldn’t pass the history exam. But did I give up? No, I didn’t. I shuffled my feathers and enrolled in a private college studying law. It wasn’t where I wanted to go, but the material was the same and even some of the instructors.Here, the reason was under my control. Don’t give up just because you got a rejection from someone or someplace! We will get hundreds of rejections that will affect our entire being. What should you do if it happens to you? Simple: look for something else and make the best out of it! Give it all you have and the results will be surprising. Those rejections would become a step toward your next best thing, an experience making you stronger.
A last example when I had to cope with a broken heart relates to the loss of my mother. It had been a terrifying experience. I always thought she would live to be a very old lady with a cane and her teeth in a case chasing her grandchildren around the backyard. I guess someone had other plans. She said that in time I would forget. Well, I didn’t, and I am still recovering from a broken heart. It got a little easier with the passage of time; the ache didn’t sting as much, but it is always there, deep in my soul. Sometimes it surfaces and sometimes it sleeps.
A broken heart experience marks a person forever. You don’t recover; you just move on to the next task and refuse to think of your loss. You remember the good moments you’ve shared and the beauty in them. It’s that simple!
A broken heart gives you strength, makes you the person you are meant to be: gracious and kind, understanding and patient, ready to wipe a tear from someone’s eyes, or to put a smile on someone’s face. If you can do that, then you’re better than the majority. You gained wisdom from your experiences; you didn’t let your downfalls transform you into a bitter person. You had become someone others look toward for an encouraging word, a small token of affection, or just a simple pat on the shoulder. You choose who and how you want to be, nobody can do it for you. The choice belongs to you!

Yes, you got it all right. You can have imperfections and be perfectly lovable. It sounds like a paradox. You may wonder how my imperfections can make me lovely. I’m not as beautiful, or I didn’t travel the lengths of the world as he or she did. I barely have enough to meet the ends. I don’t own a house. My car is old. I didn’t have straight A’s in school. But the good news is that you are lovable because you have your curiosity, and this keeps your mind open to prospects. Just because you haven’t traveled often enough or far enough it doesn’t mean you wouldn’t do it in the future. Don’t lose faith!
We are born different, unique; our talents are special, and they make us exceptional. Lovable has powerful meaning. We have to love ourselves, cherish, ourselves, believe in our powers before we expect the others to see what sets us apart in a crowd. You may want perfection, but that doesn’t mean the others seek the same attribute out of life. There is always something that will give you power over the others. It can be your words, your smile, or your touch that will make you lovable.
Have you looked at the people around you? Have you noticed their smile? Have they smiled, from the bottom of their hearts, or they displayed the shade of a smile when their thoughts had traveled far away? You will discover people who make time to touch a soul through their healing words, time to acknowledge your existence and your place in the universe. And this happens because those people consider you are captivating, delightful, entrancing, enthralling, fascinating, lovable, and sweet.

It just happened that today I missed you more than yesterday. Maybe because your day is coming and you’re not here to celebrate it. I know that, in fact, you’ve never left, but only hid between the billions of other stars. I see a star burning brightly in the night and I know it is you sending me a sign.

You knew me well because you gave me life and helped me every step of the way. You used to say that all you can do in life is put one step ahead of the other and keep on going. Don’t look back! It’s not much there but loads of memories. You life is ahead of you waiting to be discovered.

I look to Heavens and I find you there. You are the brightest star in the sky. I’m humbled by your presence and I feel at peace. So, thank you for all the nights you’ve spent caring for me, for all the advice you’ve given me, for teaching me to comb through the knots, or telling me that the sky is the only limit. You’ve been the first person to believe in me and my dreams. Your touch had magic and every difficult situation faded in your presence.

If I’d be born a thousand times I wish you’d be my mother in each and every one of them.

In life, many things don’t go according to the plan. If you fall, get up. If you stumble, regain your balance. Never give up. Stay strong because when life looks like it’s falling apart, it might be that it’s falling into place just the way it has been intended. Many times you can feel when someone really loves you even without words. Every day, every moment you have is precious, and when it’s gone, you can never get it back. Don’t live in constant fear of what is happening, what might come to be, and what might have been. Death may come tomorrow because you never know what could happen, so take a chance and try. Every second spent being angry or sad is another second you could never get back. Be fearless. Be strong. Be yourself and live for today.

People make mistakes in life, but that doesn’t mean they have to pay for them the rest of their lives. Sometimes good people make bad choices, but it doesn’t mean they are bad. It means they are human. People make mistakes, gain experience, and learn from them, and it all counts as part of life’s lessons.Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. People don’t live forever, but their memory is. So appreciate today what you have, who loves you and who cares about you. You’ll never know how much they meant to you until the day they are no longer beside you.

Spread love, and smiles, and happiness because a person who truly loves you will never let you go no matter how bad the situation is.

We all deal with hard things, some more than others, but hope keeps us going and encourages us to hang on. It is indispensable in our lives. If we help one another in our darkest times, then hope is alive that better times will follow. My family gives me hope, cheers me up when I’m sad, and cares about me. This is a very precious gift to me.
Today, I realized how easy it is to shut down and shut people out. Sometimes, when one person in a specific group has hurt us, we tend to shut down the group. Why do we do it? Hmm, maybe because it is much easier to lock the door on an entire group than to recognize that we have been injured by one individual. It is my belief that we have to try to keep the channels open, not to generalize or condemn an entire group for the evils of one person.
Let’s think of social media where we are exposed to many people and have the illusion that we know them, that we are friends with them. Lurking among the many people we meet online, there are some bad ones and many good ones. Social media can be so invasive, we are bombarded by ideas and messages from people who may be of good will or not. We have to learn to avoid and ignore the bad ones and remember that there are good people in the world too. Social media creates illusions with people you don’t know. We need to be wise and cautious about that.
I hope you will have an easy, happy week, and good things will come your way when you least expected.

I know life can be hard at times, but there is much beauty in the world. All we have to do is reach for it and embrace it with all our hearts. Don’t let it slip away because life is only a moment in the Universe’s infinite. We are stardust, our wishes diminish in the face of its immensity.

I went to a birthday party last night, and all I saw was beauty and not the years that had passed over us.

In life, you will find many who would tell you “I love you.” The truth is that it’s hard to find the person who truly means it. But this is not a reason to give up. You will find the special one, so don’t rush love, and don’t settle.  Find somebody who isn’t afraid to confess they miss you. Someone who knows you’re not perfect, but appreciates you as you are. One of them will give his/her heart entirely.

You want someone who says, “I love you,” and then he/she proves it every day.  He/she wouldn’t mind waking up with you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and gray hair, and falling in love with you again. To the people who truly love you, you are wonderful already. It is not because they don’t see your faults, but because they brightly appreciate the loveliness of your soul. Your defects pale by comparison. Those people will let you be imperfect and splendid at the same time.

Every story starts with once upon a time they met. The location is not important. The circumstances are not important. The age is not a factor. Their race is not important. Important is the fact they had found each other in an ocean called life. A girl and a boy, a woman and a man ran into each other seeking something. Incomplete until the very moment when everything stood still, they were floating adrift. They knew something was missing from their lives, but they couldn’t phantom they were, in fact, missing a part of them.

How many of us search every person hoping to find the half that completes the whole? But how do you recognize it? How do you know she/he is the one you were searching for? What are the signs that you have reached your destination?

When you find a reason to smile without saying anything, when you don’t need words to understand each other, when you share the same beliefs, when the sun shines even when it rains, you know something has happened. She/he offers you comfort when you’re low. She/he sends a cute message to brighten your day. She/he is always on the other end with a warm advice. You realized that you had found what you were looking for. You had met your soulmate.

You realized you had found a significant part of you if it hurts to breathe without her/him. If it hurts to live without her/his presence or hearing her /his voice. Your life if meaningful without her/him in it. Your soulmate doesn’t have a color, doesn’t have age, doesn’t hurt, but provides joy, happiness, understanding, love, and passion. Hold on to your soulmates because only the most fortunate ones, the worthy ones receive the gift!

In the beginning, everyone was good. When we came into this world, we were pure. There was no damage done to our souls. Day after day, the life’s hardships hardened our hearts and goodness became a word belonging to a book. But what is goodness?

Some will say that goodness is character energized expressing itself in kindness. We are called to do good. Many of us today are self-absorbed and bored with the way of life, with other people or with our jobs. It is the reason they need to be part of something meaningful like volunteering to help the less privileged people in the under developed countries, the homeless, or talking to the elders in the nursing homes.

Lao Tzu said: “Treat those who are good with goodness and also treat those who are not good with goodness.” Only this way goodness is attained. Wisdom has its root in goodness, so, by spreading goodness we become wise and take the right decisions for us and the ones around us.

Always look for the goodness in people even if not everything you hear is true and say kind words. A smile brings another smile and, by the end of the day, a vast collection of smiles will hang over our heads. Goodness is stronger than evil, and love is stronger than death. Light is stronger than darkness, and life is stronger than death.

Happy Easter everyone!