Month: February 2019

It takes only one word to hurt a woman, a matter of seconds, one stupid, impatient blow of the crop. But winning her trust back takes years. And sometimes there isn’t time. It is so amazing how unimpressed men are by being loved when it doesn’t fit their plans. Love irks them so much that they push the women away or they leave without warning. But when women stop loving them, men fall into a void of their own making. They don’t know how to cope with the loss. They start searching for the woman they once loved trying to find her into the next woman they date only to realize how foolish it had been to push away the only woman they had ever loved.

Some folks cannot love you the way you want to be loved because they are emotionally and spiritually frozen. They withdraw and evade affection. You must understand that you will never meet a deep penetrating gaze from their shallow eyes; only a surface glance. They will touch your hand, but they will never invest their hearts. They will serve your body but never your soul. They can only connect with you through how useful you can be to them but never through passion.

If you need chocolate or a jar opened, they are perfect; if you need compassion or wisdom, you are all alone. Some will cry when you leave, and some will disappear you when you cry. They are the results of what society has made them, not as nature intended them to be. They pretend to live life impeccably, but they don’t know a thing about life. They are nothing else but empty shells. They are dead inside. And they will break your heart if you let them. They see themselves as friendly, but more often than not they are mean and cold. They feel superior but lack originality. When you challenge their sweet daydreaming with anything that stimulates their thoughts, they will panic and flee. And they will make you feel crazy for being different.

You cannot change these people. They become entombed inside themselves. You will waste your whole life waiting for them to wake up to the treasure of what you have to offer. You can’t snap them out of their sleep. Often, only a tragic event will possibly awaken them. Sometimes they wake up during a painful life transition. Some wake up on their deathbeds. Some sadly never realize their potential for self-knowledge, intimacy, expression of love and feelings, and knowing love.

Maybe you know someone like this. Or, maybe it is you. Perhaps you are the one who is dead inside, and this will prompt you to take action before it becomes too late.

Love,

Carmen-Monica

The motto that marked and changed my life is that if you cannot say anything good, say nothing at all. We are not created the same way. We have a different design, although our creation follows the same principles. Some of us are genetically more sensitive than others. The outside factors don’t act upon us in the same ways. Whatever some might view as normal, others might view as unusual. The first rule of common sense says not to judge whatever you can’t understand or doesn’t fall in the category of things you view or consider normal. Don’t be in a hurry to express your opinions. Stop in place, think, put yourself in the other’s place and give it a chance. We might do the same things during the day, but our unique design allows the outside factors to influence us in ways that make us unique. It is the reason why we act differently to the influences acting upon us.