Month: July 2018

Sometimes we feel trapped inside our own emotions and wonder if we will ever make it out alive. And somewhere between what we survived and who we became, we find ourselves exactly where we were meant to be. Caught in a dream world we create, we begin to love the journey and to find comfort in the quiet corners of our wildest dreams.

Some say that people don’t change. But sometimes they do. People weren’t always this way. Even if we don’t change the entire world, we can change the part we play in it. And we can affect the people we share it with. Even a wounded butterfly can still fly. Whether something was meant to be or meant to leave didn’t matter as much anymore. People can soak up the sun, kiss the breeze and can fly regardless.

Love,

Carmen Monica

What if, for just a moment, you’ll have the opportunity to peer into a fortune ball and saw that you’re never going to meet the One. I know that you’ve been dreaming for a while to meet someone to curl up at the end the day, who would take care of you when you got sick and listen to your stories every evening after work.  But what if you knew with certainty that you’d never meet that person. What would you change about your life?

Love inspires our most significant changes. But what if love is not in the cards for you. What would you do? What would your option be? Would you focus heavier on your career? Would you invest in yourself and push yourself to go into more vacations, to travel further outside your comfort zone? Would you spend more time loving your family if you knew that they would be the only people who would be with you at the end of your life? Would you show up more often and share a little more of your life?

I think that for some never finding love would be a game-changer while others would see it as ultimate liberation. Opportunities open when the fear of ending up alone disappears. You would be able to live anywhere you want. You could go back to school for that degree you always wanted, you could climb the corporate ladder.

Sometimes, love holds us back in ways we don’t even realize. One thing we should do is stop waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. In the end, you’re going to be the person who gets up off the floor every time you get knocked down and hold your hand every time you’re broken. You have to appreciate everything you bring into your life because the irony is that you are more attractive when you’re not worried about who you’re attracting. Start living your life confidently, freely, and without restraint, and you will emit energy that will change not only your destiny but the lives of the ones around you also.

You must stop looking for the One to spend the rest of your life with and start being the One and allow everybody else to come and search for you.

Love,

Carmen Monica

Patience is the quality that allows us to overcome the obstacles we face, both on the earthly path and on the spiritual path. It is closely linked to hope, the belief that we will be able to overcome the current obstacles and that the future will bring us good.

So, above all, patience implies a strong trust in our capabilities, and especially trust in the will of God, having the understanding that nothing in this universe is accidental! Love, Carmen Monica

A lot of clichés exist about forgiveness. You find them in every piece of advice, in every endorsed opinion, in blogs about letting go of the anger. You read them in quotes and stuck them on post-it notes to a wall. You know that there is no simple task to forgive and it seems like a gap exists between deciding to forgive and feeling peace.

Forgiveness is a vast land for those who crave justice, and the very thought of letting someone walk away free from what they’ve done makes you sick. You don’t want to wipe your hands clean. You want them to bear the weight of what they’ve done, not you. You want to see the scores evened. Sometimes, forgiveness seems like the ultimate betrayal, and you can’t give up the fight for justice after what had happened to you. The anger is burning inside and pumping toxicity throughout your system, but you know that you can’t let it go. The anger is as inseparable from you as your mind and heart.

But the thing about anger is that it doesn’t realize that the past is over and that the damage has been done. Anger is the refusal to heal because when you’re scared, you’re afraid of who you’ll be once the wounds close up and you have to go on living as the new you. Forgiveness is healthier because it brings peace, it brings release when you want the madness in your brain to quiet, but you can’t find a way to get there. Nobody tells you this about forgiveness: it’s not going to fix anything because it is not an eraser that wipes away the pain of what’s happened to you. It doesn’t undo the pain you’ve been living with and grant you immediate peace. Finding peace is a long and arduous battle.

Forgiveness means giving up hope for a different past. It means acknowledging that the past is over, the dust has settled, and the destruction left can never be reconstructed. There is no magic solution to the harm that’s been caused, but you still have to live. Forgiveness means restoring your peace. Forgiveness doesn’t mean to make amends with who hurt you; it doesn’t mean befriending them, sympathizing with them or validating what they’ve done to you. It’s just accepting that they had left a mark on you, and that, for better or worse, the mark is your burden to bear. It means that you’re done waiting for the ones who broke you to come and put you back together. It’s you who decides to heal your wounds and to move forward.

Forgiveness isn’t about letting the injustice reign. It’s about creating your justice, your destiny, reinventing yourself. It’s about getting back on your feet and deciding that the rest of your life isn’t going to be unhappy because of what happened to you. It means walking bravely into the future with every scar you’ve incurred along the way. Forgiveness means that what happened to you won’t define you any longer. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you give up your power, but it means that you’re finally taking it all back.

Love,

Carmen Monica

Make your own decisions, stand on your own two feet, pull yourself together after you fell. You have to continually look for a way to carve your own path in life, to do what you want. You shouldn’t be afraid to go solo and to trust yourself.

Love fiercely, terribly, beautifully and thoroughly with a passion that sickens, consumes. Become a knot of emotions that twists your feelings, throws you upside-down. But don’t also forget to be kind, compassionate, understanding.  Allow yourself to give love because everything else you’ve been brainwashed to believe you need you already have.

Take care of yourself even if that might suggest an entirely different life than the one you thought you would have. Only you can figure it out because no book and no one else can advise you what to do.

Learn to survive because life is about surviving the best way you know how.

Love,

Carmen Monica