Just because people are going to treat us differently, some with respect, others with envy, we shouldn’t allow ourselves to go into the freezing mode, hoping to keep everyone away, hoping to protect ourselves from being hurt again. Some of us can go as far as terminating relationships as soon as we feel hurt.
But isn’t hurting a part of life?
No one wants to feel pain. At one point in our lives, we may have been so overwhelmed by the emotional distress our relationships or our decisions had induced inside our minds and our hearts that we felt crushed by the amount of pain we felt.
We should take a deep breath and think that today we are stronger than the day before because we deal with these hurting feelings. No one suggests that we should become martyrs, assuming that suffering is all there is to life. We have to allow ourselves to become vulnerable enough to feel hurt and take a stand in dealing with our behaviors. But we shouldn’t let our feelings control our reactions.
Pain teaches us to set boundaries. Pain wants to stop us from going in the wrong direction. Pain starts the processes of healing.
It’s okay to feel hurt, to cry, to heal and to move on to the next feeling when we’re ready. No one has the right to tell us to move on and let go if we’re not mentally prepared for doing it just yet. We would do it when our hearts healed.
My encouragement is: think that tomorrow is always a new opportunity to try again and find joy.
Love,
Carmen Monica
Carmen Monica Oprea 