Month: March 2018

Mirrors. They are part of our lives. We see our reflections in the mirrors every day. But when did we nod our heads in approval at what we saw? Sometimes we are quick to criticize ourselves, to find out what we don’t like about the way we look. What if we try to find the things we love about ourselves and give thanks for them? What if we look at ourselves lovingly and begin to appreciate what we see?

Look in the mirror and, instead of criticizing yourself and finding things you don’t like, try to discover things you love about your body: your perfect nose, beautiful hands, the color of your hair. Why don’t you start at the top and work your way down as you look at yourself in the mirror?

Then think about aspects of your personality. You may be an inspired cook, an empathic listener, a patient parent, a good gardener. Write it all down in a journal. Find those things about you that make you feel grateful you exist, that help you make a difference in the lives of others.

Loving yourself enough every day will give you the courage to go on in life. Sometimes, all you have left in this world is yourself. Be happy with what you see in the mirror. You are your best friend and your confidant.

Love,

Carmen Monica

You must stop. You are so worthy of love because you have a big heart. So, quit letting your brain override it. Allow yourself to be loved.

You must stop. Quit telling yourself you are broken. You are a strong woman, and, even if you don’t realize it, everything that had happened to you has made you into the woman you are today. TOUGH!

You must stop. It’s time to let those walls down. Let them fall. What you’re feeling is, in fact, fear, because when you let the walls down, you become vulnerable. But, do you know something? That’s a good thing. It proves you are human that you deserve to be loved. So, please, stop with the insecurities. Stop hating yourself.

You must stop. Stop pushing people away because you know in your heart that it’s not what you really want. Don’t allow your past experiences bring you down. Keep reminding yourself that you are a beautiful woman: inside and out. You are a woman who is not broken and deserves to be loved.

So, pull those shoulders back, raise your chin up, adjust your crown and keep being the beautiful woman that you are.

Love,

Carmen Monica

Don’t settle for less than what you deserve. Jokers will use magic to transform your reality into a pointless dream. Real people will transform your reality into magic. Carmen Monica

A poem

 

I was the man, who was always looking for a new décor.

I was the man telling every girl: I love you.

But only after she had left, broken and crying,

I had realized that I only love her.

I was the man, who always showed up with a formal smile on my lips,

Telling her the same old, banal, empty words.

“She’s finally gone. I am free,” I told myself when she left.

But it was far from the truth.

Today, I feel I can’t breathe without her. Everything’s empty.

In what can I believe, God? In what?

Today, I’ll give anything to turn her away from her path.

And one day, I saw her again on the street.

But to speak to her or to come near her was impossible.

She, who always waited for me when I forgot to arrive,

Watched me as you watch a stranger, with empty eyes.

So much time had passed since she left. But is it now when I realize that I love her.

Now, when she only lives in my thoughts, I know that I love her more than anything else in this world.

Unknown author

 

 

Just because people are going to treat us differently, some with respect, others with envy, we shouldn’t allow ourselves to go into the freezing mode, hoping to keep everyone away, hoping to protect ourselves from being hurt again. Some of us can go as far as terminating relationships as soon as we feel hurt.

But isn’t hurting a part of life?

No one wants to feel pain. At one point in our lives, we may have been so overwhelmed by the emotional distress our relationships or our decisions had induced inside our minds and our hearts that we felt crushed by the amount of pain we felt.

We should take a deep breath and think that today we are stronger than the day before because we deal with these hurting feelings. No one suggests that we should become martyrs, assuming that suffering is all there is to life. We have to allow ourselves to become vulnerable enough to feel hurt and take a stand in dealing with our behaviors. But we shouldn’t let our feelings control our reactions.

Pain teaches us to set boundaries. Pain wants to stop us from going in the wrong direction. Pain starts the processes of healing.

It’s okay to feel hurt, to cry, to heal and to move on to the next feeling when we’re ready. No one has the right to tell us to move on and let go if we’re not mentally prepared for doing it just yet. We would do it when our hearts healed.

My encouragement is: think that tomorrow is always a new opportunity to try again and find joy.

Love,

Carmen Monica