Month: October 2017

How often happens to hold speaking the truth because you fear what someone else might think, say, or do?  Only speaking the truth will set you free. It will help in finding a balance between your heart and your soul.

Most of my life I tried to avoid conflict, and by doing so, I seldom spoke my truth… I discovered that this wasn’t a great way to live. It wasn’t until I found my voice and learned that it was more important to be real to myself and others than to merely please everyone.  Of course, I didn’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings. But then I thought of my feelings.Why should I allow anyone to take me for granted? How fair was I to myself?

I wasn’t fair at all…

I learned from my experiences that all predators pay attention to the easy targets, to the ones who don’t speak up for themselves, to the ones who don’t dare to tell the truth. I met them in a place I have no desire ever to return. And looking back, I just wonder how I have made for so long.

Speaking the truth will disgruntle a few people at first, but trust me, the respect you will earn will outweigh the temporary feeling of displacement you might experience.  And if anyone reacts harshly to your truth that response is theirs to own and not yours.

You were born to express yourself, so speaking the truth will set your soul free.

Love,

Carmen Monica

I am not going to give advice. But what I can surely say is that you are in charge of your destiny. You can be whomever you want to be and go wherever you want to go. Nobody can tell you that you can’t do this or that. There is no limit to what you can accomplish if surrounded by the right people and put in the right place.

I realized that I must keep what I love: the things, the people, the stories, and the friendships I built over the years. I realized that I must let go of the negative stuff because if I remember it over and over again, it will become part of my current life, it will suffocate me.

All the negative things from the past are done, finished, and I am not the same person as I were then. I don’t have to dig negative stuff out of my past. I just don’t have to put it in my story anymore. If people want to be a part of my life, they won’t find excuses. They will find ways to remain a part of my life. For this reason, I decided to fill my life with love so that anything negative will leave me. Only this way I can start telling the greatest story ever told because the force of love will light up my life.

Love,

Carmen Monica

We always have a choice: to love or to hate. We are given all types of people so we can choose what to love in them or turn away from what we don’t like. We are not meant to love people who lack the qualities we appreciate, like loyalty, fairness, and kindness, but we must simply ignore them, don’t give them any feelings.  When we ignore what we don’t like, it means we are relaxed about it, because we are given a choice.

We don’t have to argue with them to prove them wrong, or criticize and blame them, or trying to change them because we are correct. If we do it, then we are not giving love. When we feel love, then only the ones who also feel love can come into our lives.

There are days when we feel thrilled, days when we feel irritated, and others when we are sad. We have many versions. This is why is essential to understand that the people in our lives can have many versions and still be the same people. When we are happy, only a happy version of another person can come into our lives. It is very important to be happy to recognize a happy person.

We are not responsible for other people’s happiness because everyone is in charge of their own moods and feelings. This means that we are only responsible for the signals we sent into the world, and not the signals returning to us. We can’t change how the people see us, accept us or treat us, but we have a choice on how we treat them.

Love,

Carmen Monica