I learned that we can be loving, trusting people, and still not allow ourselves to be used or abused. We don’t have to let people do whatever they want to us. Not all their requests are legitimate because not all requests require a yes.
Life tests us, people seek out our weak spots. But if we have a weak spot in one area, we find ourselves repeatedly tested in that particular area by our family, friends, or co-workers. All these tests are trying to teach us something. When we learn that lesson, we’ll find that we are capable of setting boundaries. We own the power to say yes or no. There are moments when we may be angry with certain people, people who pushed our tolerance over the edge. And that is perfectly fine because soon enough we can let go of the anger and exchange it for gratitude.
Those people have been present to help us learn about what we don’t want, what we won’t tolerate, and how to own the power. We should thank them for what we have learned.
You should ask yourself how much are you willing to tolerate, how far should you let others go, how much anger and intuition should you discount? Where are your limits? Do you even have any? Because if you don’t have limits, you’re in big trouble.
There are times when you shouldn’t trust others, but instead, trust yourselves and set boundaries with those around you. You should forego your naïve assumption that the other person is right.
Love,
Carmen Monica
Carmen Monica Oprea 