The ones we love

There are many times when you want to tell how very, very sorry you are about the incapacity to ease someone’s suffering. There are times when you can do something about, and times when you can only witness the struggle with the pain, take a step back and just wait. You learn how to live with losses, with unfulfilled dreams, with betrayal, with the fact that you have been abandoned.

When you feel so lost that nothing makes sense and you ask yourself what to do when you feel this way, try finding a solution that is making a difference. It is unlikely that we will reach the same answer. Some will find help in medication, others will choose religion, others will talk to a friend, or a counselor, or a therapist. A friend may bring you comfort, cuddling a pet may bring you comfort, or a loved one may say things that resonate with you, or a support group of some kind, or dancing, or going for a walk, or yoga. The answer will be different for each of us. Try to discover what makes the most sense to you, and just as life looks worse now and then, it also gets better. Hang on for that moment, and try to find what feels best to you, and makes your life better again.

Try to understand that you couldn’t change what happened, that it wasn’t in your control, but it was in somebody else’s hands. You will always miss the ones you’ve lost, but in time, you will feel more peaceful about it. Sometimes, the loss is immense, but in time, you will laugh and smile when you remember silly things and fun times you’ve spent together.

The ones we love and lose remain in our hearts forever.

Love,

Carmen Monica