Month: February 2015

It is never easy to meet someone to encompass all the traits you are looking for in the perfect life partner. Who the perfect partner is? A guideline to compare possibilities. In the beginning, you meet, fall in love and learn about each other. You go on day after day hoping that the other person is your dream partner. One day, when the magic is gone, when you meet the blank stare of your partner, you find yourself at a crossroad asking yourself what road to choose. The hardest thing to do is to let go of someone you never thought you will say goodbye. You are convinced you’ve done everything in your power to make it work; you quit your dreams for their happiness; you let go of your hopes and embraced theirs. One day, you realize that your life isn’t as you envisioned it to be. You didn’t accomplish any of the plans you’ve made because you always worked on fulfilling the expectations. Then, you stop and rethink every step you took and discovered the faults.

You didn’t give up yet, but you feel an unending sting. You have to live the life you envisioned. You need to take all the time you need to numb the pain. It will get easier with time and, as soon as you meet the real love of your life, the last one will become overshadowed; it will make the last one diminish in intensity. You take your time to imagine the perfect person and point out which areas your past partner felt short. You need to make it clear to yourself why you had to let the person go. You would never stop loving them completely because they became a part of you, but you would stop loving them romantically.

We may think we have many friends in our lives, but the truth is that some of them are just acquaintances. We met them through Facebook, Skype or other socializing nests, we added them to our account, and, when we do the math, we realize we have hundreds of friends. But are they my friends? Have I spent time with them, do they know my family or have they visited my home?
Cleaning my friend closet started a long time ago. I gave it the same attention I gave to my clothing closet. I usually got rid of the negative prompts first, freshened up my image and welcomed positivity into my life. It is an excellent way to make room for real friends that will enhance my life and energy, not take from or drain it.
There are obviously allowances to every rule. I have to do what feels right for me. It is just important for me to remember that if a person does not make me feel good, support my choices or share my desire for a happier, more fulfilling life, they may not have a place in it.
People will always arrive in my life, and they will go their way. They will bring great experiences with them, and none will be finer than learning to let them go when their lesson is complete.

This simple word hides meaning. What is trust? Should we trust the people in our lives? Some will say it is naïve to think that fellow people have your best interests at heart. Maybe they do, but maybe they don’t. By nature, people tend to act on what they think it’s best for them. Their desires will always go first. It is your choice to give your trust to the people around you. Trust builds with every new step that we take, day by day, moment by moment. Should you believe your friend will not betray you if it benefits her/his goals? Is she/he going to stand by you when incertitude clouds your mind? Is she/he going to listen to your heart’s song and wipe the tears carving your face?

Trust means putting your fate in someone else’s hands and taking the risk. When you find yourself at a crossroad, you trust your instincts to guide you on the right path. Should you trust the person who says: Trust me? Trust means telling the truth, even when it is hard to do so, even when you know you will hurt someone. First, look into your soul and decide what you want. The moment you’ll understand yourself you will trust that you took the right decision. Trust doesn’t happen overnight. To trust someone with your life is the biggest accomplishment you can achieve in life. To trust someone it means to be convinced of the person’s competence and reliability.